6 Ways to battle gender bias at workplace

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In this eBook you will discover:

1. Why others don’t get it?
2. Problem of being passive
3. Engage in The Critical Dialogue
4. What use is self-awareness?
5. Deal with biases?
6. Is inclusion truly inclusive?


Battling gender bias at workplace

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The negative consequences of parental communication

There is no denying the fact that we inherit most of our traits from our parents.  My strong conviction about how a bed should be made to how the icing should be on the cake.  Not to forget all my anxiety.

Though your parents didn’t intentionally gift you a worrisome nature, unwittingly how they spoke to you when you were young definitely had an impact on your anxiety and worry in adulthood.

It’s important to understand that most parents would have inadvertently said offending or paradoxical things to a child at least a few times in their lives.  They might not have had the time to think through the psychological implications of their words and action.

Words can be powerful and can generate intense feelings of anxiety in children, your actions can be even more powerful.  As a parent, your role is to provide a predictable and reliable environment.  As parents, your words can become problematic when you invalidate what your child is feeling.  Unpredictable behaviors make children anxious and create an emotional template that becomes problematic for the child in adulthood.  It is important to understand that your children rely on you to validate their confusing emotions and feelings and when as parents you deny or minimize those feelings, they tend to get anxious when those very emotions reappear.

Some words and phrases often used by parents which must be avoided are:

  1. Stop crying, don’t be a sissy, be strong! – statements like these can convey to the child that being sad and expressing those emotions are bad or unacceptable.  As a result when such feelings resurface in adulthood, it leads to anxiety as they wouldn’t know how to respond leading to suppressing those emotions.
  2. Relax, calm down! – Often when someone is going through an anxious situation, people end up making this statement which is counterproductive. Though the intent is to help and diffuse the situation, the person becomes even more anxious.  They would start to feel that they do not have the ability to deal with the situation as others which can erode their self-confidence.  It is like a quicksand, the more you repeat the more anxious the child becomes.
  3. Come on, hurry! – Almost every parent would have made this statement and almost on a daily basis when their children have to get ready for school.  “Now, you are irritating me, hurry up before I blow my top”, such statements have never really worked.  Those who have experienced would vouch for it.  The more you shout the more delayed the kids will be.  They get very anxious unable to deal with the situation, often leaving them confused and exasperated.  There are better ways to manage.
  4. There is nothing to worry about – This is another statement which can actually make the child even more worried.  They might perceive it as an attempt to diffuse a situation which they must actually be worried about.  By attempting to quickly put off the flame you end up having the opposite effect.
  5. Not a big deal – Is a statement that makes the child feel that you have not completely understood their emotional state and are brushing it aside.  This can lead to detachment, and they would stop sharing their feelings with you.  Over a period of time, they would learn how to suppress such feelings leading to anxiety.
  6. Don’t climb the tree, you are going to fall and break your bones! – Why do we have to exaggerate in an attempt to stop our kids from doing certain things which we don’t want them to?  Why don’t we look at conveying our concerns in a more realistic way and help them make the choices?  When you keep repeating such statements, they become fearful of action and tentative in their approach as adults.
  7. Come here, let me do that for you – communicates to the child that they are incapable of handling the situation on their own.  While your intent is to help your child, it has the opposite effect.  They become afraid of making choices as they grow up to be adults.
  8. You can do whatever you want and feel like, I am there for you! – this may sound like a very positive statement to make, however, has a devastating effect on the psyche of your child.  We wouldn’t realize that the child could perceive it as a compromise the parent is willing to make for his/her happiness.  Statements like “I have never stopped you from doing anything”; “I have always given you the permission to do what you feel” etc., still communicates a lack of intent to engage with the child or you are still the one calling the shots.  Ponder!

It is highly unlikely that you will never make any of the statements I have mentioned above.  However, being mindful of the deep impact it can have on your child and its consequence, when they grow up to be adults, will make a huge difference!

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Paradox – Parenting guffaws

Have you not served them their gingerbread yet?

Asked the baker momma to her little girls so fret.

We were just going to, momma,

Said the girls on the edge of trauma.

Just going to? Oh indeed!

Said momma fierce in her voice and deed.

That is so very interesting,

And who may I ask, permit you that giving?

We didn’t give it away just yet momma,

We only thought after the permission you gonna.

You only thought! That is very kind of you,

I thank the both of you.

But I thank you both to not go thinking!

Cause I am here to do all the thinking.

As baker momma shouted in her terrible voice

The poor girls seem to have lost their voice.

Tears welled down baker momma’s daughter,

As she burst out in a harsh crackle of laughter.

Oh! Look at her! just look at her! All cowardy,

Isn’t she a poor little cry-baby?

Baker momma shrieked pointing her knotty finger,

As large tear came coursing down her daughter.

Within minutes she made them feel small and frightened,

As the daughters distress only got heightened.

For momma blocked all three areas of human functioning,

That of her daughters acting, thinking and feeling.

Seeing all this, only this comes to mind,

Cause momma had put her daughters in a double bind.

The daughters felt so used,

The monkey is now confused!

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The fear of feedback is real. 

Many avoid it as they expect the worst: arguments, difficult to meet demands, pressure to comply, or even threats of detachment in relationships. So rather than seek feedback, people avoid the truth and instead continue to try and guess what others might be thinking.

These are old patterns that manifest themselves in maladaptive behaviors like denial, blaming, procrastination, brooding, and self-neglect.  If people continue in this vain for prolonged periods in life, then they are not just driving blindfolded but also living in a world that could be far away from reality.  It could be their own fantasy world.  The day the bubble bursts, they come crashing down and that can be highly damaging to the person.

Can you overcome the fear of feedback?  Of course, you can!

Is there a process? Is it simple?  Yes, there is a process, and it is simple!

GARFing – a step by step method of giving and receiving feedback.  It not just improves the quality of your relationship but contributes immensely towards your mental well-being.

When you don’t use it, you are prone to carrying a lot of ‘GARBAGE’ in your mind, which slowly eats away into your self-esteem and confidence. 

So much so that at some point your relationships start to stink!


GARFing is the skill you must master!

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Driving with blindfolds on!

Leading your life without continual feedback, giving, and receiving is akin to driving your car with a blindfold!

Most people fear feedback, lest it forces them to confront their ‘truth’ and make them vulnerable. People even imagine the worst when there is a talk of feedback.

Just imagine for a moment, if someone calls you over and tells you that they have feedback to share.

What do you feel momentarily? That would give you the answer of how you might be dealing with feedback.

We all know that ‘feedback’ is the engine that keeps the life machine moving forward, yet we fail to learn, know or utilize the full power of this powerful engine.

Don’t try to drive your life blindfolded! then the only thing you will end up doing is have your hands of the steering – folded and in prayers!

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Giving And Receiving Feedback

The Art of Giving And Receiving Feedback

The one thing that matters most!!

There is no greater force to improve the quality of human relationships or improve the way organizations function than to multiply the amount and improve the quality of ‘Feedback’.

This online workshop will provide you with Simple yet powerful STEPS, of feedback giving and receiving, that will significantly enhance the quality of your interpersonal relationships, both at home and at work!

This program is backed by over 30 years of research and working with over 450,000 people, helping them improve their quality of life and relationships using the power of feedback!

One skill that makes a difference!


Have you been carrying the burden of unsaid feedback?

Worried how others may react to your feedback?

Had others react aggressively to your feedback?

Regretted of not having said things much earlier?

Have you been at the receiving end of other’s judgment?

Have you ever wondered about how you could make feedback safe for yourself and others?

Then this workshop is just for you!

The good news! is that you no longer have to stumble and trip along the way in an effort to build healthy, open, and transparent interpersonal relationships.

The simple steps of GARFing which I will share with you in this workshop will not just make your life easy, but you will start having conversations that are meaningful and enjoyable.

There is nothing more rewarding! in a relationship than having openness, sensitivity, empathy, and trust.

There will be no more worries about hidden agendas, manipulation, and power-play but there will be a relationship of great understanding.

Feedback is the foundation of ‘positive relationships both at work and in life.

Outcome you can expect

  • Understand the role of ‘feedback’ in building effective interpersonal relationship
  • Build awareness on the role of ‘assertiveness’ in giving and receiving feedback
  • Understanding the ‘Do’s and ‘Don’ts of ‘giving  and receiving feedback’
  • Learn techniques of giving and receiving feedback
  • Practice the steps for GARFing
  • Help create a sustainable action plan to effect change

Program content

  • ‘Dysfunctional Behaviors’ and its impact on interpersonal relationships
  • Feedback – How does it improve interpersonal relationships?
  • Role of Self-perception and its attitudinal impact on behaviors
  • How your assertiveness impacts your feedback ability?
  • The Power of Feedback
    • What is feedback?
    • How do we give feedback?
    • Redirection and Reinforcement
    • Misperceptions about feedback
    • Sharing the benefits of continual feedback
  • GARFing – The tool in your hands
  • Steps for receiving feedback
    • The ‘4R’ Model
  • Will your interpersonal communication style affect feedback?
    • Understanding the communication styles of others
  • Handling difficult conversations
  • GARF at Work – Get started right away!

Who is this for? anyone who wishes to improve the quality of his/her interpersonal relationships both at work and in life. It could immensely benefit those whose feedback could make a significant difference in someone’s life, like parents, teachers, managers, and business leaders.

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I thought I shook myself free

You see I bounce back quicker than most

But I’m half delirious, Is too mysterious

You walk through my walls like a ghost

And I take every day at a time

I’m as proud as a Lion in his Lair

Now there’s no denying it, a note to crying it

You are all tangled up in my head

Old habits die hard!

This song by Mick Jagger sums it all up!

Did you not know that you were not supposed to drink and smoke?

Old habits die hard

Have I not told you not to bite your nails?

Old habits die hard

Were you not told, not to interrupt when someone is speaking?

Old habits die hard

The list could be endless.

So why is it difficult for people to shun their old habits? – their self-defeating habits?

It’s all tangled up in your head. When you become accustomed to something, it is hard for you to break out of it!

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People do get accustomed to Procrastination!

OLD HABITS DIE HARD! – After all 😊