Will Power is all nonsense – stop believing in it!

“I must appreciate your will power Sree, that you were able to quit smoking”.

I’ve lost the number of times my friends, family, colleagues – ex and current have said this to me during our conversations.

I thought it is time to investigate what this mysterious thing called ‘will power’ is?

After several futile attempts to know the mysteries of will power, I came to realize that, it was all nonsense.  There is no such thing as will power and only a few are gifted with possessing it.

The day I got my answer, I was able to put to use the so-called mysterious power of “Will” to change one self-defeating habit after another.

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Your EVIL DJ plays a soulful tune – Beware!

WHO IS PLAYING IN THE HOUSE TODAY?

Is it once again your favorite EVIL DJ?

Has it turned you into a ‘Couch potato’?

There are some tracks – when you listen to them it pumps up your adrenaline and urges you to push the gas pedal for the day, a little harder.

There are some tracks – which deplete you of all the energy. They press your body and mind back onto the couch. You just don’t have the energy to jump out of it soon. You eventually start to enjoy your couch, more than anything else.

Your self-defeating habits are your EVIL DJ playing your favorite numbers daily for you to remain where you are. Depleting you of your energy, motivation and eventually sucking the life out of you.

The question is “How Do You Change Your Self-defeating Habits?”

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Stories that change life – The Proverbial Nail

STORIES THAT CHANGE LIFE – MULLAH AND THE PROVERBIAL NAIL THE CRITICAL DIALOGUE – LIFE AT WORK

One day as Mullah Naseeruddin was walking along the street, he found a young boy shouting angrily at his parents. 

The reason – they were too old and not able to keep pace with him.

It so happened that Mullah knew the boy and his parents and the fact that he was very much interested in art and painting.

“I have tickets to the art exhibition, would you like to join me?” he asked the young lad.

“Yes, of course, I am all excited” replied the boy.  In those days, an entry into the art gallery was reserved for the elite from the kingdom.

The boy was amused as the Mullah got down from his donkey and offered the boy a ride to the art museum.

He was awestruck seeing the works of art from some of the great artists of that time. As they walked past one piece of art, the boy asked “What do you think of that one?  Isn’t the painting marvelous?”

“Yes, the nail is absolutely marvelous” replied Mullah as they walked toward the next one.

As they walked past the second painting the boy asked the same question.

“What do you think of that one?  Isn’t this one better than the previous painting?”

“Yes, the nail is really marvelous” replied the Mullah.

They moved to the third one, which was the artwork of one of the great masters of that time.

As they walked past this masterpiece, the boy asked Mullah the same question, to get the same reply “the nail is so beautiful, definitely a masterpiece”.

The boy got very angry and thought that the Mullah didn’t know a thing about art.  “People like you are a waste to society.  You have privileges, power, authority but no taste for the myriad beauties of life.”  Shouted the boy.

“You see, these paintings wouldn’t have made it to the art gallery if the canvas on which they were made not been held stretched tight on the canvas board.

This heavy painting would have been lying in some corner biting dust, if not for the nail which gives it the pride of place in the wonderful gallery of art”.

No one sees the burden of the ‘nail’.  The pain it had to endure when it was hammered into the wall.  The weight of responsibility for keeping the artwork from falling.

You see, it is very similar to our elders and parents who have been the ‘proverbial nail’ in our life.  Taking the burden, enduring the pain and carrying the weight of responsibility – just so that we turn out to be great masterpieces of art in this ‘universe’ gallery.

For they are the ones to add all the necessary colors and shades to your life and turning you into a masterpiece.

The boy immediately understood the meaning behind the Mullah making him ride the donkey.  He ran back to his parents and apologized for his rude behavior, promising to take care of them all is life.

Who have been the ‘nails’ in your life? 

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STORIES THAT CHANGE LIFE!

#thecriticaldialogue with your favorite Mullah Naseeruddin.

One day in order to teach a lesson to his disciple Mullah Naseeruddin took him and a pitcher to a nearby well.

The Mullah drew a bucket of water and poured it into his pitcher.  Then he drew another, and poured it in.  As he was pouring in the third, the disciple could not contain himself any longer.

“Mullah, the water is draining out.  There is no bottom in that pitcher”.

Naseeruddin looked at him indignantly. “I am trying to fill the pitcher.  In order to see when it is going to be full my eyes are fixed upon the neck, not the bottom.  When I see the water rise to the neck, the pitcher will be full.

“What has the bottom got to do with it?  When I am interested in the bottom of the pitcher, then only would I look at it”.

My dear young man, you only perceive what you see and focus on.  Don’t blame the pitcher for it.

You see, you cannot learn until you are in a state in which you can perceive what you are learning, and what it means.

Hope you were able to get to the bottom of this story and learned something.

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Until next time.

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Stories that change your life!

The Elephant And The Ankush

Up close with elephants is not new for those who belong to the state of Kerala in India, popularly known as ‘God’s own country’.

I visited a nearby temple during one of my customary annual visits to Kerala, where each temple had an elephant or two for use during festivals.

STORIES THAT CHANGE YOUR LIFE – Elephant and the Ankus THE CRITICAL DIALOGUE – LIFE AT WORK

I had seen elephants uprooting large trees with one push, pick and throw them away like we can a small twig.  I was confused when I saw one in the temple with no chains, no fence, just standing there swaying its trunks gently with not even a rope tied to its leg as always described in the popular story of the elephant and the rope. It just had a very long stick resting against its body which had a small hook attached to its end touching its giant ear.  It looked like the stick was left hanging to one of its ears.

The mahout was no where in sight and I was terrified if the elephant would just charge at me and crush me to pulp under its giant feet.  I saw that the elephant was not paying any attention to me standing close by as if I did not even exist.

When I finally saw the mahout, I asked him how these magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to break free and get away.

“Well,” he said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same type of stick called the Ankush to bring the elephant under control.  We tug at its ear using these sharp edged hooks just so that when they try to move it will hurt them enough for them to stay.  It’s a signal that they shouldn’t move. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they should not and cannot break away when they have the hook hanging over their ears.  They believe the stick which is as good as a twig can still hurt them, so they never try to break free.”

I was angry at the pain and torture meted out to these beautiful and gentle giants, so early in their life, the pain of which they carried in their mind long after they turned into powerful adults.

These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hooked onto painful past experiences and have struggled to move on?

How many of us have long forgotten our strengths and are leading a life conditioned by limiting beliefs like the Ankush? 

How many of us prefer to endure the pain, than break free from the Ankush?

How many of us have avoided trying something new, because our past attempts at change have hurt us?

Worse, how many of us are being held back by the hook of someone else’s limiting beliefs?

What I learnt from this story?

This story is somehow metaphoric of our life.

Am I carry an elephant mindset?

I started to reflect, like the elephants, how many times have I gone through life hanging onto a belief or negative hook, that I cannot do something about?

And that too simply because I failed at it once before! Or I was afraid of it before! Or I was hurt by it before!

I think that every one of us can relate to this story. The feeling, of having failed at something or another over the years really pulls back from our personal growth and development.

Over time, we may have begun to believe that we are not capable enough of doing a particular thing, infact anything.

We accept this as the truth and limit ourselves to a very conditioned world.

So my dear friends, no matter how much the world tries to hold you back with their versions of the ‘Ankush’ please don’t be afraid.  Chug along with the belief that you have the strength and will do it, no matter what.

The fear coming out of the pain of past failures, obstacles and challenges you faced should not stop you from getting to success and being happy.  You deserve that!

It’s time for you to come out of your “Elephant Mindset”

Hope you enjoyed listening to this story and learnt a few lessons along the way?

I would like to state that I do not agree or support any kind of violent acts, torture or restrain of animals and believe that they have a right to be left alone and grow in their own natural habitats.  Thank you for your support. 

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Fear My ‘Fear’, Not My ‘Anger’ !

It helps me to call GOD, names,
As he is the only one who is not insulted by all my blame

I am angry at all the rich
As I fear the lack of which

I am angry at you getting too close
As I fear losing the independence, I chosemelanie-wasser-j8a-TEakg78-unsplash

I am angry you were not there when I needed the most
As I fear abandonment from the only one I loved the most

I am angry you make me wait
As I fear being ignored

I am angry you disagree with me
As I fear being judged

I am angry and yell at you till you are convinced
As I fear being accused of something that is untrue

I am angry you interrupted me
As I fear you will never understand me

I am angry and I have GOD to blame
As I fear peeping inside for the burning flame

Don’t be mad at me for my ‘anger’ within
It’s my fears that trigger my angry feelings within

They are the fears I carried within
Since the time my life begin

I was told weak are those who fear
I clung on to that belief O dear!

I don’t want to take this anger to the grave
I lived a life so depraved

I want to share all my fears
Without being judged and brought to tears

I want you to fear my fear
And not my anger my dear!