Conflicts in teams can be a great source of change and innovation.

No matter what kind of team it is, no method of managing conflict will work without mutual respect and a willingness to disagree and resolve disagreements. Each person on the team must be willing to take the following four steps when a team meeting erupts into a storm: listen, acknowledge, respond, and resolve remaining differences.

Listen: To hear what someone else is saying is not the same as listening. To listen effectively means clearing your mind of distractions and concentrating not only on the words but also on nonverbal gestures, which often convey ninety percent of what the person is trying to say. When resolving disagreements, you often have to deal with feelings first.Acknowledge: You can acknowledge people’s positions without agreeing with them. Show this with statements like, “I understand that you’re angry,” “If I understand you, you think we should”, or “Let’s explore your opinion further.” You may still disagree with them, but at least they know you’ve heard them.

Acknowledge: You can acknowledge people’s positions without agreeing with them. Show this with statements like, “I understand that you’re angry,” “If I understand you, you think we should”, or “Let’s explore your opinion further.” You may still disagree with them, but at least they know you’ve heard them.

Respond: You’ve listened and acknowledged what the other person is saying. Now it is your turn to be heard. If you’re offering criticism of your teammate’s ideas, make sure it’s constructive, and if you’re disagreeing with them, be ready to offer an alternative. Be willing, also, to be questioned or challenged, while avoiding defensiveness when you answer.

Resolve remaining differences: Define the real problem by looking for what’s causing the disagreement. Then analyze it into its manageable parts. Now you can generate alternative solutions to the problem and select the alternative on which everyone can agree.

For individuals to work effectively in teams they must be able to clearly communicate their ideas, to listen, and be willing to disagree. Although it is difficult, learning to appreciate each other’s differences reflects a team’s ability to manage conflict. When conflict occurs we must not turn our backs and hope it will go away. Instead, we must learn to tolerate it, even welcome it, for well-managed conflict can be the source of change and innovation.