Are you in deep waters?
You are not alone
Do you no longer feel like the person you used to be
You are not alone
Are you feeling more anxious and less confident than you used to be
You are not alone
Often regret not having said what you should have
You are not alone
Are you struggling for some ‘me time’?
You are not alone
Do you feel you have been take advantage of ?
You are not alone
Have you been body shamed?
You are not alone
Have you felt exploited at work?
You are not alone
Are you a victim of a ‘narcissist abuser’?
You are not alone
Have you been emotionally abused?
You are not alone
Are you feeling stressed?
You are not alone
Are you feeling that your life is not you wanted it to be?
You are not alone
Are you feeling hopeless and are just going through the motions
You are not alone
Oh! please don’t say that. This is the last thing I want to hear.
What comfort does it give a person who is suffering when you go tell “you are not alone”? Just because others are suffering, how does it reduce mine? Are you asking me to take comfort from the fact that people are suffering the world over?
Go tell a poor man who is struggling to put bread on the table for his family; has hungry children at home waiting for that morsel – “you are not alone as there are millions of people around the world who are hungry and suffering like you”
Does he want to hear that?
I think many of us are quick to point out to others and are also being pointed out the same way when we suffer. There is always someone who comes and tells us that we are not alone. It doesn’t change anything for me, my situation and my mental state.
Very similar to telling a victim / survivor of an abusive relationship that she is not alone and there are others like her the world over who suffer at the hands of their abusive husbands. Do we expect her to take comfort from knowing this fact?
It’s time we understood that each one’s suffering is their own. It’s unique and they are trying to find solutions to come out of it. Do not ever trivialize that by telling them “you are not alone”.
I wonder, that could probably be the reason that people who are going through ‘suicidal thoughts’ fail to call the helpline or respond to the call which says “Are you feeling like killing yourself? – Don’t worry, you are not alone in this. Talk to us”
So let me say this – I don’t care if there are ‘x’ number of people suffering in this world; it does not comfort me and change my state. Tell me directly what can I do to make the change.
Cause I am Alone!
