NEVER ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS!

I was part of a program where the speaker was asking the following questions to the audience;

  1. What do you want to achieve?
  2. What would you like to acquire as possessions?
  3. Where do you see yourself 5 years from now, 10 years, 15 years?
  4. What does success look like for you?  Can you visualize and narrate that to me?

When it came to my turn, I said, I don’t know and I don’t want to bother about it as well.  I am happy the way I am.

The success coach took offense, as my fellow participants started to laugh at my response.  He felt a little threatened, that I could potentially derail the entire process he had set out for himself and the audience.

He didn’t want to let me go and followed up “Can you explain why you feel that way?”

I set out to explain to him and the rest of the audience thus;

I asked him “If GOD comes and gives you just one wish and you have exactly 3 seconds to answer, what will you ask?”  By the time he gathered himself, I said time over, GOD has moved on to the next person and your chance will come again after he is done with 7.8 billion people.

That is if you are lucky to survive, it would be approximately 248 years when you get another shot at a wish.

I could see my coach fuming already as the whole class burst out laughing at his predicament.

“Does that mean we should not have goals?” he shot back angrily.

I don’t wish to tell you more about what happened subsequently, but I had left enough doubts in the minds of the coach and his audience about what he was talking about.

I want to you to reflect on how you were as a baby?

You wanted food when you felt hungry – you got it!

You wanted attention – you got it!

You wanted to be left alone – you got it!

You wanted to be lifted and cuddled – you got it!

Now all these were done in the moment and as your ‘needs’ arose.  As a baby you didn’t sit around thinking what you wanted to accomplish for the next 5 years – did you?

You also now will be able to recall, that as you grew older, while you wanted a lot of things and dreamt of accomplishing greatness, most of it got buried under by your parents, teachers, coaches and other adults around you.

The bloody problem is that you were dependent on these adults for your food, clothing, shelter, education and finances.  By the time you finished your education, you would have learnt that no matter what you want, there are guys who are going to bury that underneath their dreams and expectations of you.

You became a people pleaser and that helped you live in this world without much stress and pull from others around you.  You became flexible, adaptable, accommodative and accepting of the lemons life threw at you, and yes, you made a nice lemonade up until the time some success coach came along and said, “You can accomplish what you want, only if you can imagine it in your minds eye”

Sorry, I don’t want to wait for 248 years for my turn.  I would rather live in the here and now!

Don’t forget the script has already been written and passed the censors.

Hope by now you understood what an IDIOT would do to succeed? 

So please for god’s sake literally speaking, please save him the trouble of making another visit to ask you the same question – “You have 3 seconds, ask me one thing you want”

So your IDIOT Guide To Success says, learn to live in the moment and react to here and now!

If you liked this episode please do subscribe and share, and yes welcome to the IDIOTS club!

If you didn’t, let me tell you that I will meet you after 248 years.

Ciao

Published by Sree

Professional Profile Founder and Bibliotherapist thecriticaldialogue.com 2016 - to present As a bibliotherapist, I use thecriticaldialogue.com as a medium of storytelling or the reading of specific texts for the purpose of healing and personal transformation. Co-founder and Partner Equinox Consultants 1995 - to present I have over 30 years of experience in the field of Sales, Sales Management, Human Resource Optimization and OD. As a Co-founder and Partner at Equinox, I oversee business development and client partnership apart from facilitating developmental initiatives through assessments, training and executive coaching. As a trainer I have in the last 20 years, co-facilitated and trained over 400,000 professionals at senior, middle and junior management levels, for diverse industry segments. I have special interest in Leadership and Team development, especially facilitating personal transformation through coaching. I thrive when I see large groups and enjoy facilitating large group training interventions using Equinox’s unique and powerful Large Scale Interactive Process tools and methods. I rely on my strengths of making the training highly impacting and enjoyable experience for participating groups. I have facilitated training in organizations like Reserve Bank of India, SEBI, SVP National Police Academy, SBI, Oracle, Microsoft, Dell, Deloitte, Genpact, Wells Fargo, Citibank to name a few. As an assessor At Equinox, I help facilitate the design, development and deployment of assessment tools which help individuals and businesses in augmenting their performance development efforts. I have co-created and developed Equinox’s powerful high performance tool and framework, the S.T.A.R™ Model and related assessment (for Leadership, Coaching, Team and Individuals). Also, actively involved in partnering 360 deployment for our clients who demand more than just training. I am a Certified Reflector Big Five Consultant (A Level ‘B’ Psychometric instrument) As a consultant I help clients optimize human resources by engaging with them with end-to-end transformational solutions. Starting from role and competency mapping, profiling, assessing and creating developmental actions and facilitated coaching and training, I partner client initiatives which guarantee results. I have co-created Equinox’s very own Human Resource Optimization model the S.T.A.R™. As a person I am passionate about social-upliftment and work closely with institutions helping the destitute children and the girl child. Through Equinox’s ‘Build a Life’ program, I also contribute in a small way in making a difference to this world. I like adventures and the risks which go with it. I have been an active sports person, having played hockey at the national level with distinction. I like writing on philosophy and life in general. My links: http://www..equinox.co.in and Twitter: @sreekumar_india View more posts

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